Anyone else love checking things off a to-do list?
The perfectionist in me LOVES to check boxes and move onto the next task.
Most of the time, I think my love for to-do lists is a good thing.
It helps me stay organized and motivated.
But recently I realized that this quality also holds me back.
It creates the expectation that everything in life is either an empty box waiting to be checked off, or a checked box.
Until recently, I viewed "fixing" my relationship anxiety as another to-do, and so naturally I expected that once I healed the relationship anxiety that it would go away forever.
Once I check the box, the anxiety should be gone—right?
Wrong.
Just because most days I no longer experience relationship anxiety doesn't mean that my journey to heal relationship anxiety has been 'checked off' my to-do list.
There is no finish-line to this task.
I am only human.
There are still going to be moments of doubt that creep in and test me.
There are going to be moments where I feel uncertain about my future with Nate.
What's different is I now have the TOOLS to help myself move through the anxiety way faster; to get un-stuck.
I know that feeling guilty or angry with myself won't help the situation.
I choose to trust in the process and keep showing up for myself.
I have a support system I can go to if I need a boost.
Instead of looking for the "finish line" in the journey to heal, we must accept that life is about small improvements that add up over time.
We must accept that setbacks happen, but it's all about how you move through them and bounce back that matter.
We must accept that we need to lean on others for support.
All this said, I want to remind you that whatever hardship is in your life right now—you don't need to tackle it alone. Be it healing relationship anxiety, or something else.
There are tools, resources, therapists and coaches that are available to help you on your journey.
And while there isn't a 'finish line' to healing—there's always a chance to create yourself a brand new STARTING line.
You are never alone.
Sending hugs your way this week!
